by Bill Taverner & Sue Montfort
“Making Sense of Abstinence succeeds brilliantly in making the topic of abstinence intelligent, thought-provoking, imaginative, respectful, and downright engaging. These lessons provide educators a much-needed opportunity to teach, not preach. Students … will learn that there is a long continuum of behaviors between “saying no” and “doing it” that will keep them safe, not sorry. Educators will feel more secure about teaching tough topics such as oral sex, masturbation, and outercourse, when they [teach using] discussion about personal values, decision-making, and communication. [Helps] all our teens get the complete information and protective skills they need and deserve to make smart, safe decisions.”
~ Susan N. Wilson, Senior Advisor, Answer
Table of Contents
- Introduction
- Principles of Sex Education
- Goals and Objectives for Teaching About Abstinence
- How to Use This Manual
- The Lessons
- Making Sense of Abstinence
- So What’s an “Abstinence” Anyway?
- The Abstinence Lineup: Much More Than “Just Say No”
- What’s Your Take: Examining Opinions about Abstinence
- Hey, Mom? Hey, Dad? (Hey…Gram?): Can We Talk About Abstinence?
- Just Say Know: Navigating Mixed Messages About “Sex”
- Everyone Deserves Respect: Looking at Abstinence and Stereotypes
- Masturbation: A Touchy Subject
- Figuring Out Outercourse
- Oral Sex and Abstinence: Examining the Role of Intimacy in Sexual Decisions
- Handling Horny: Savvy about Sexual Response
- Is the Slope That Slippery?
- Ready or Not? Deciding about Sexual Behaviors
- Saying Yes, Saying No
- ABC…Easy as 123?
- Some Day: Making the Transition from Sexual Abstinence




